As important as it is to know what you wanna do and what to achieve in this busy life, when figuring out all the aspects of your present and future life, there is something I feel people don’t talk about too much and I haven’t talked about too much. One thing is the ‘work-hard, hustle and no pain no gain’ part, but where it all starts to develop as a way of living, is somewhere, when sitting alone with yourself and deciding what kind of person you are and who you wanna become. I feel, like we often forget how we are also ‘work in progress’ and when we don’t forget it, it’s easier to reach the goals, as we grow with our dreams. I think it’s healthy to look around and be influenced by people who inspire and move us.
I had a nice chat once with my psychologist about self-love, being grateful and learning to appreciate yourself. Developing the skill of being truly happy and in love with yourself, is way deeper and harder, than it sounds. I’ve always thought that I’ve had a pretty well developed skill of loving myself, but when I realised, that I’m having hard time of forgiving myself, that dug up several parts of the relationship I’m having with myself and gave me a new perspective of treating myself even better.
Knowing yourself and knowing who you wanna become created a beautiful ideas, what I like to follow in my daily life. It might me a healthy exercise to everyone to sit down with yourself and try to visualise yourself in 10-15 years. How do you wanna be remembered, when you leave the room? Or when you step in somewhere? I have few rules of life, what I’m putting into actions daily. I think it’s healthy to have some.
Be somebody who makes everybody feel like a somebody
This is one of my #1 rules, as being nice and kind is so much harder than being rude. Being a shit with others is easy. Being nice and respectful takes way more courage. People can forget what you DID to them, but they never forget how you made them feel, as we are use to connect people with our emotions. Being nice, authentic and respectful makes you a better person to yourself and to others.
Do all with love as love will do all for you
Spreading love gives you love back. Once when you will reach the level of ‘zen’ with yourself, you are more easily able to spread love around you. Put the same emotion everywhere what you do or what you touch. It is such a big game changer, because it gives you back the energy doubled twice. It doesn’t take much to smile, look people into the eye or holding their hand for a second or two. But it shows love and respect.
Never sleep on a fight
Don’t walk away, close the door, hang up a phone or go to sleep when there is a fight still in the air. It doesn’t have to get fixed, but it need to get calmed down. We never know what life have for us next and I bet you don’t want that people will remember your bad words as the last ones. It’s just a healthy reminder that we have to stay close to our loved ones and not take anything for granted. Fights always happen and they can be healthy start for something new, but don’t walk away and leave it there. Learn to control yourself and remember, that do everything with love.
Don’t be good, be great
It might be something what I just want from myself, but ‘being good’ is not good enough for me. If it matters to me, I wanna be great. I don’t wanna be just good. I wanna maximise everything what matters to me. I wanna be great at my work, I wanna be great at my relationships, I wanna be a great woman. And once the mindset becomes natural, the actions become natural of taking them. It’s not an egoistic act of pushing yourself to become something you are not, but being more. I wanna be the best of me for my families and friends. And the best of me for me. And if I can treat myself right, I can treat others around me right.
Listen and remember
There is a real beauty of listening and actually hearing what people tell you. Most likely we are surrounded daily with people and we have several different connections with people around us. Often we have a chat but instead of listening, we get focused on what to say next. It’s a lesson to learn to stay calm, just to listen and remember what people say. Remember their names, listen their stories. Even if you think that you will never meet them again. And if you do, I promise you have a instant connection with somebody once you reach them out by saying their name. Make people matter. Listen, ask, hear, discuss and talk when it’s your time.
Things are not for granted
I make myself being grateful every day for things I have and also for things I am out for. Saying ‘thank you’ and ‘sorry’ have more power than we often think. I have a daily habit, what I trained myself few years ago, what was that every time after a workout, when I cool down and stretch, I think about things I am grateful today. Some days it’s just that I have fully functioning legs and arms to do, what I wanna do. Other days I am grateful of having these people around me who I have. Being and feeling loved. And as important it is to remind it to yourself, it is also important to say it to others.
Dream as big as you can
Dreaming is one hellofa healthy habit and depends on what vibe you will add to it, it can become something pretty and big what will help you deform yourself. See yourself in those magazines, make yourself feel the love you want to receive. Act already as if. Nobody can take dreaming away from you. And I have a strong belief of something what sounds like ‘what you can see it in your head, you can hold it in your hand’.
Just know that people will think whatever they wanna think, regardless what you do. So you better be and become a good one. There’s only one of you and the best what you can do, is grow yourself that good, that you will be happy with yourself. Only like that, others can be happy with you.